On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
God commands us to do good, even to our enemies. Throughout the Bible, many verses remind us to do good to our enemies, to love them, and to help them. In doing so, the effect will not produce pain (bringing coals on his head); instead, it will create shame, remorse, and conviction within the hearts and souls of our enemies.
In this thing called life, we all experience hurt inflicted by someone else. Think of someone who has wronged you. Can you imagine their confusion, conviction, shame, if you were to help them, love them, encourage them, despite their wrongdoing? In doing this, we are not only obeying God’s instructions, but we are also helping promote peace and may even be bringing our “enemy” to a place of reflection or repentance.
I am currently walking through a major trial in which a specific person has deeply hurt me. I could easily get angry and act evil toward this person. Instead, I am “taking the high road.” It is not always easy to be kind to this person. Some days I consider being mean or taking the advice of others who assure me if they were in the same situation they would seek revenge. Instead, I have committed myself to praying for this person every single day. Some days my prayers are nicer, and my words are easier to find than others but, regardless of how difficult the task may be, I still pray for blessings over this person’s life.
Ultimately, if you are angry and mean every day, then the situation will continue to escalate and take a toll on your own life. You will not only lose your potential blessing for obeying God’s commands, but you may also interfere with God’s plan for the trial, the person, and the hurt. It is not easy to be kind to a person who has caused pain or hurt in your life, but it is necessary not only to forgive that person but to be helpful to them. It frees you from bondage. It is hard to hold onto anger and hurt when you pray for your enemy.
God knows you have been insulted, hurt, or injured. He already knows, and He is already doing something about it. Leave room for God to fight your battles. Let Him work on this person. Let him do it in a way that can be redemptive for you and the enemy. Do not get frustrated because God has not taken vengeance in the way you would like. Give Him room.
Do you bless people who mistreat you? Are you willing to give God room for His redemptive actions according to His wisdom? Pray for your enemies. Pray for those who mistreat you. God will bless you for it.