Biblical Guidance on Being a Christian Wife 5/31/2018

Lady in sunset

1 Peter 3:1 (AMP)

1 In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives.

Selah (God said to me!)

We’ve heard this before (and probably tried to hurry past it) so in my mind I gathered a room full of women and shared this scripture. At the same time, a camera caught the expression of each face as she received it. Do you see the range of faces? Do you see yours? Even those who try to hide their feelings & reactions show, through body language, defensiveness: legs & arms crossed, sighs, eyes shifting away, a quick breath from some who want to be this wife and are seeking help as to how. Some, who have discovered the power of submission, smile.

As born-again women, we desire to do what God says. The instructions are simple, but not easy. God’s word is a command, and God’s commands are always for our good, so we can trust Him. I have found in my life that I had a really hard time trusting, and the reasons stemmed from experiences. These experiences had feelings, especially fear, attached to them, and feelings get in the way, causing my choices to submit to be experientially conditional.

Thank God that His choice to sacrifice Himself for me, to give me life, was not conditional! His unconditional love for me brought me back from my desert wilderness. I experienced His acceptance and love right where I was (in a pit), instead of criticism for all my failures.

We can start by submitting to God, whom we can trust to always love and take care of us, no matter our condition. We rest and receive the grace to walk out anything He asks of us without fear.

We, as Spirit filled women, have power! Not noisy, in your face power, rather quiet world-changing power as we walk in partnership with God. Instructions were given for all believers to submit to authority in all walks of life. Today’s verse tells us as wives to apply the same instructions to our marriages.

We are living examples of Christ for the world, including our husbands, to see. Obedience is powerful and so is disobedience.

I am sick of giving the enemy any ground at all, so he isn’t going to get ground in my marriage! I have much experience in failure.  I repented and decided to trust God instead of relying on my own faulty understanding. My ways were foolish. I surrendered, and life is better today. I have peace, I am secure, I am not afraid. For me, that is huge.

Don’t let your past experiences and feelings get in the way. By choosing submission to God, we honor our husbands, and submitting to our husbands honors God. It’s a circle, like our rings! Our feelings will follow our choices when we honor God with obedience to Him in all areas. Our husbands can be the men that God created them to be in this life-giving environment. Our marriages become light for those around us who so desperately need it.

My life verse is John 2:5 …5 His mother said to the servants, “Whatever He says to you, do it.”

~Debbie Morris


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